How to be a genius

"Genius comes from learning how to teach yourself the skills you need to succeed." -- Everett Bogue

Too much guys are focused on searching and ammassing information rather than on really learning (I was one of them). When you collect ebook, DVDs and seminars you are not really learning. Real learning comes from applying what you see, read and hear. True knowledge is information + experience.

All too often, when someone is confused or clueless he starts searching for the magic bullett or the supreme and infallible guru. Too often when some guy is confused, he tries to learn some more:

"I only need some more informations and I'll be on my way to Mastery!"

Result: even more confusion. And so a new KJ is born.

No, it doesn't have to be that way. All you need is some good information and maybe a little guidance, but real learning comes from applying that informations (about foundamentals), analyzing and adjusting your approach for solving a real problem. In other words, experience-oriented learning with the proper self-awareness.

My suggestion: when you are confused, STOP and think where you are, what your context is and what is your problem. THIS is how you reach mastery and really learn, not by blindly following someone else's directions. Always start with the problem and work your way through he solution using your brain first, not the other way around. Real spontaneity, knowledge and confidence comes from forging and applying your own judgment in the here and now.

The key to be a genius is effective self-learning by really using your brain and creating true knowledge through experience. Using your own judgement and problem-solving skills is KEY, ad I'm discovering in this days.

PS: HBWaitress from the last day has a boyfriend (or she wasn't interested, I heve to work on my first impression, body language and co.). NEXT!

Daygame: Waitress Approached!

I had two approaches in mind for today: a new cute and a bit shy waitress in a local restaurant in which I and my colleagues usually go for lunch (we'll call her HBWaitress) and a gorgeous girl that I regularly see at my bus stop (she'll be HBBus).

My problem was precisely opening: I didn't know what to do to open a conversation. I've noticed that when a good situation for an approach presents itself, my mind goes literarly blank. Not good. Mix this with the wealth of information (sometimes contradicting) out there on approaching and daygame, and you have a completely clueless guy standing like an idiot trying to find his way through his anxiety and confusion...

So I sit down and really used MY brain to find a way to approach them. I read one very good article on daygame that really "clicked" for me, planned how to open both HBWaitress and HBBus, how to follow up and how to close, and I was well on my way to success. And it was a success.

I only managed to approach HBWaitress. BTW, it was logistically HARD. She is a new waitress without experience, all running around a crowded bar trying her best to serve everyone. Still, I managed to open her just before leaving. It was a flash interaction (no more that a minute), but now at least I know her name (and she knows mine). Nice! Having something to say ready was a huge help for me: I've been able to concentrate on my body language and tonality, that usually is still not that good. Especially during an approach.

Now I'll continue along this road. For the next days I'll interact with her in a very laid back way, injecting a good amount of teasing and playfulness. Maybe next week I'll suggest a date for a real interaction. And at the same time, I'll not put all my eggs in one basket: I'll keep my eyes open :)

Key Lessons

• Your brain is your primary asset: USE IT. When you feel confused and don't know what to do, don't read too much: just a little bit. Then apply your good sense and your intelligence.


• Having something prepared to say is a HUGE advantage if you go blank just before the approach.


• Mindset: you are fascinated by her. Genuinely and freely express your interest, making compliments, to find out if she is compatible and the two of you can "click". Do it with a relaxed, confident and laid back attitude.


• Don't force the logistics, work with them!

PS-- The usual disclaiment still apply: english is not my mother language and for now I prefer to just write. If I stop to edit, re-edit and refine my posts I'd end up not writing anything. And for now, writing horrible posts is still better than writing nothing.

How to overcome a breakup

I feel like the world is my hunting reserve. I look around me and I see beautiful woman everywhere. I imagine and feel that I can have at least some of them.

How I survived my breakup? There are several factors:

• The relationship was already stale for several months.
• I wasn't happy with her anymore because she was more and more distant.
• She repeatedly mistreated me.
• I deliberately chose to look around me and really see the beautiful girls around me. It worked quite well.

Now my mindset is: I'm fine, I appreciate beauty and I am curious to to meet new women and find out which one of them is a good catch for me. I refused to surrend to pessimism -despite having some quite negative friends in my social circle- and seeked the positive. Because you will find and see only what is already in your eyes.

So, after my experience with this breakup here is my recipe to overcome a breakup:

• Give yourself some time to really cope with this. Don't deny what's happened, accept it and move on. Pick a calendar and give yourself, for example, one week. Consider this a vacation from her and girls in general. Feel free to think about her and to cry alone in the night under the rain, whatever. But after this "mourning", WAKE UP!!
• During the "mourning" you probably will be a little depressed and you will feel a failure. Don't beat up yourself, it's completely normal. Yes, it's over, but 99% of the times it's NOT only your fault. A relationship is a dynamic between TWO people, not one.
• Become a YES man. Seek the support of your friends and relatives, and go out with them every time they invite you -and they will, I assure you, if you tell them what are you going through-. Even if more than likely you won't feel like going out. But this will help you a lot, believe me! Only be sure not to whine all night, and instead try to be in the moment and NOT think about the breakup. This will feel hard and unnatural at first, but keep trying. It'll be more than worth it!
• Look around you and really see and appreciate the fantastic girls all around you. They are more than likely much better and much more compatible with you than your ex-girlfriend. And you can have them.

PS: This is a post that I've written in a rush of inspiration and introspection. I've decided to post it nearly unedited instead of seeking perfection. Adjustments and refinements (of my skills and knowledge) will follow day after day. I'm back, and I want to rock!